I remember it well. Years ago I watched the Paul Newman movie "Cool Hand Luke" for the first time. One scene that stood out to me was when the inmate said "I can eat 50 eggs." And then he attempted to do so.
But there was another scene that stood out even more. One of the men who was overseeing all the inmates was noticing a problem. So this is what he said: "What we have here is a failure to communicate."
What a line!
The older I get, and the more I think about it, the more I am convinced that an overwhelming majority of life's problems can be traced back to one thing: A breakdown in communication.
We all (including me) can fail in this area at times if we aren't careful.
Here's usually how it goes: We get something on our minds. And it involves another person. It can be about something like a plan, goal, expectation, concern, frustration, or proposal. But the other person doesn't seem to be on board with what we are thinking or expecting. Now it could be that the other person is bull-headed and stubborn. But maybe the real reason we feel resisted or ignored is that we have failed to clearly communicate our thoughts or expectations to this other person.
How can people know what we expect if we don't clearly tell them? And how can people make changes if we don't let them know they need to? Listen, only God can read minds. People can not. So because of that, we need to open our mouths and talk to each other.
It requires honesty, courage, and effort. But it's essential. We have to open up and tell each other what we are thinking and how we are feeling.
Communication. It's vital to relationships, businesses, and even churches. We have to talk with each other. When we do, there can be peace, order, and positive change. But when we don't, there is chaos, tension, and failure.
Don't assume that people know what's on your mind or in your heart. Don't drop hints and hope that people will catch on. Just open up and talk to others. Tell them what you think and feel. That's how you get results. And that's how life gets better for everyone involved.
Let's all communicate.
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